Be a Friend (part two) | Sinking Ships 09

If you’re going to be a friend, you might as well be a good friend. Yes, being a good friend is a great way to stay a friend. So what does it mean to be a good friend?

Don’t always put yourself first.

Friendship is not only about you and what others can do for you. You have something to offer them as well. When we always insist on our own way, when we are selfish, we show the other person that they don’t matter. Some times we must set aside our preferences and instead put a friend before ourselves.

Encourage others.

You know how every now and then you just really need someone to tell you that you’re doing a good job or that your hair doesn’t look the result of a nuclear explosion? Your friends could use a little of that too. Compliment people, pay attention to when the smile of a friend isn’t as bright as it usually is. Look for opportunities to encourage people. Look for positive things to point out. People are rarely mad when we say nice things to them.

Motivate people.

What is your friend working towards? Are they creative, into drawing or writing? Are they struggling with a class? Ask about it. Motivate them to keep working hard, to keep pursuing their dreams. When we feel like giving up, sometimes a simple word of motivation from a friend is enough to keep moving forward. Be that strength for your friends.

Spend time with people.

A good friend is a friend who you spend time with. We think getting older means having more free time, but it actually means have less. Much less. Spending time with our friends is a choice we have to make, not just empty time, but quality time. When you prioritize a friend in need when you could be doing something else, it means a lot.

Tell them about Jesus.

In our hearts, we want to show the world the hope and love found in Jesus! If we care about our friends at all, then we pray they find salvation in Jesus so they might spend eternity with us in Heaven, rather than eternally separated from God in Hell. Too often we resort to an argument to convince them of the truth and rarely is it effective. It is through relationship that we show people the character and nature of Jesus. How we love people is a representation to them of how God loves them.


  1. What does the way you treat your friends say about Jesus?
  2. Think about ways you can encourage or motivate your friends this week. How can you be a good friend?

PRAY: Lord, today show me creative ways that I can show Your love to the people in my life. Help me to represent You well in everything I do, every conversation I have, everywhere I am.


Hebrews 10:19-23 (NLT) And so, dear brothers and sisters, we can boldly enter heaven’s Most Holy Place because of the blood of Jesus. 20 By his death, Jesus opened a new and life-giving way through the curtain into the Most Holy Place. 21 And since we have a great High Priest who rules over God’s house, 22 let us go right into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ’s blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.

23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24-25 (TPT) Discover creative ways to encourage others and to motivate them toward acts of compassion, doing beautiful works as expressions of love. 25 This is not the time to pull away and neglect meeting together, as some have formed the habit of doing, because we need each other! In fact, we should come together even more frequently, eager to encourage and urge each other onward as we anticipate that day dawning.

Colossians 4:5-6 (NLT) Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.

2 Corinthians 5:14-20 (NLT) Since we believe that Christ died for all, we also believe that we have all died to our old life. 15 He died for everyone so that those who receive his new life will no longer live for themselves. Instead, they will live for Christ, who died and was raised for them.

16 So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! 17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

18 And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. 19 For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. 20 So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” 21 For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin,[e] so that we could be made right with God through Christ.

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